Relationship Guidance
“The Course of True Love…
…never did run smooth,” or so says Shakespeare. He had no idea.
In truth, it’s littered with detours, potholes, nails, road rage, Sunday drivers, and roadkill.
What’s worse, there’s no signal, so your GPS is down. Most of the roads are unmarked anyway, and you can’t remember the last time you held a paper map.
That “Last Chance for Gas” sign? You must have passed that miles ago. And what’s that? Ah, the low tire pressure light? Great!
Admit it. You’re lost. You’ve passed that landmark three times now.
How do you know it’s not a different one?
How many statues of a giant termite could there be around here?”
Wandering around aimlessly, it hits you – you’re stuck in a rut. Round and round. Same old patterns. Same old bugs – um…landmarks.
Trying to figure out where you are on your own just isn’t working.
You need a compass.
Perhaps you think you want a relationship, but you’re actually avoiding them. As soon as you find a vintage model, you end up flooding the tank, overheating the engine, burning up the breaks.
Or maybe you always seem to test drive the lemon – or the model that’s totally wrong for you.
But this space isn’t about your partner. Nor do you need a partner to work on yourself.
This is about self-exploration and self-growth, about getting into a healthy space for the relationship you deserve.
Take a look at how increased understanding of self can prepare you for the romantic road trip of a lifetime.
Just ask,
Jordan (he/him)
Boys don’t cry.
Jordan’s parents were not emotional. In his household, no one expressed how they felt. Culturally, they considered expressing emotions a sign of weakness.
Not surprisingly, Jordan had always ignored his emotions.
He lived by the mantra, “It is what it is.” No point in dwelling on how things feel – suck it up and get on with your life.
And men don’t trust.
Jordan had never married – he’d always had difficulty connecting deeply. In fact, his only long-term relationship ended because she’d felt he was “closed off.”
His sister and female friends from high school teased him for being “incapable of sharing his life.” The joke used to be funny. Lately, it’s been feeling less comical.
For years, Jordan was satisfied casually dating. As he got older, it felt more and more taxing. He used to pity his married friends with families, and now he found himself envious.
He and his buddies never talked about these sorts of personal things, so he tried therapy.
Therapy teaches lessons.
As we worked together, Jordan learned that much of what held him back stemmed from his inability to process his emotions.
He discovered a key point to acknowledging his emotions – he had to connect his mind and body so he could actually process events. He felt relief knowing he could use his emotions to navigate difficult situations.
Through therapy, Jordan learned he had to know himself better before he could share himself with someone else.
Therapy opens doors.
Jordan had always been confused and annoyed when women asked him to share more of himself. What else did he have to share?
Now, he feels more open because he has a model for emotional exploration. Letting someone else in no longer seems pointless, unsafe, or even frightening.
No longer does he shy away from deeper relationships in his life.
And he’s discovered that there’s enough of himself – to share.
Therapy can help you learn what’s blocking you, too.
It’s time to get to know one another.
Don’t delay a minute longer.
Schedule your complimentary consultation today.